Bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r bir \u00e7ox insandan e\u015fitmi\u015f\u0259m ki, dost eybi \u00fcz\u0259 dey\u0259r. Amma f\u0259rqli bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 y\u00f6n\u00fcnd\u0259n baxma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131m v\u0259 bu ifad\u0259nin \u0259slind\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu anlad\u0131m. Bu fikrin formala\u015fmas\u0131nda Dale Karnegi’nin b\u00f6y\u00fck rolu var. Kimins\u0259 s\u0259hvini t\u0259nqid ets\u0259z v\u0259 \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 vursaz o insan\u0131n reaksiyas\u0131 m\u00fcdafi\u0259 xarakterli olacaq. Bu kimins\u0259 eybi v\u0259 ya \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131 deyil. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n t\u0259bi\u0259ti bel\u0259dir. Bir insan \u00f6zl\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259 \u00f6z s\u0259hvini q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bil\u0259r, amma bunu qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsd\u0259n e\u015fitdiyi zaman \u0259n c\u00fczi ehtimal\u0131 bel\u0259 istifad\u0259 ed\u0259r\u0259k \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn haql\u0131 oldu\u011funu ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u00fcb \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fcdafi\u0259 etm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259r. Ehtimal olmasa bel\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n ehtimal yaradar. Bir insana t\u0259sir etm\u0259k v\u0259 onun s\u0259hvini anla\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259min etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ba\u015fqa bir yol da var.<\/p>\n
Ona m\u00fcsb\u0259t keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini s\u00f6yl\u0259yin. Sizin g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fczd\u0259 onun n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259y\u0259rli oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u0259yin. Bu t\u0259nqidinizd\u0259n daha \u00e7ox i\u015f\u0259 yarayacaq \u0259min olun.<\/p>\n
M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, dey\u0259k bir dostunuz sizin tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z v\u0259 he\u00e7 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t bilm\u0259diyiniz bir insanla dostluq qurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u00d6z vaxt\u0131n\u0131n bir hiss\u0259sini ona ay\u0131r\u0131r, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Amma siz bunu ist\u0259mirsiz \u00e7\u00fcnki dostunuzun pis bir xarakter\u0259 sahib insanla m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurmas\u0131na g\u00f6z yuma bilmirsiz.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ar\u0259 1: Siz dostunuzla dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131z v\u0259 ona s\u0259hv se\u00e7im etdiyini dem\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131z. Daha ayd\u0131n \u015f\u0259kild\u0259: “S\u0259nin dost se\u00e7imin yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r, gedib pis adamlarla dostluq edirs\u0259n. A\u011fl\u0131n olsun, uzaq dur ondan!”<\/p>\n
\u00c7ar\u0259 2: \u00d6z dostunuza y\u00fcks\u0259k insani keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u0259yirsiz. Daha ayd\u0131n \u015f\u0259kild\u0259: “Dostum s\u0259n \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 adamsan v\u0259 dost se\u00e7imind\u0259 \u0259minlikl\u0259 dey\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, d\u00fczg\u00fcn q\u0259rarlar verm\u0259yi bacar\u0131rsan. \u018fmin\u0259m ki, pis xarakterd\u0259 insanlarla m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 olmazsan.”<\/p>\n
Sizc\u0259 hans\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259c\u0259k?<\/p>\n
Dostunuz m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 insan\u0131n m\u0259nfi y\u00f6nl\u0259rini d\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr. \u018fg\u0259r siz dostunuzu t\u0259nqid ets\u0259z ehtimal ki, cavab\u0131nda “m\u0259n kiminl\u0259 nec\u0259 dostluq qurmaq laz\u0131m g\u0259ldiyini bilir\u0259m. Onun yax\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri d\u0259 \u00e7oxdu” cavab\u0131n\u0131 alacaqs\u0131n\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259min anda siz dostunuzun q\u0259rar q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k q\u0259d\u0259r a\u011f\u0131ls\u0131z oldu\u011funu hiss etdirirsiniz v\u0259 o m\u00fcdafi\u0259 y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u0259 ba\u015f vurur.<\/p>\n
Lakin siz 2ci \u00e7ar\u0259ni istifad\u0259 ets\u0259niz o d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259c\u0259k ki, dostum m\u0259nim a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011fumu v\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f q\u0259rarlar verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Ona \u0259ksini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k d\u00fczg\u00fcn olmazd\u0131<\/p>\n
T\u0259nqid yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. M\u0259qs\u0259dinizin h\u0259yata ke\u00e7m\u0259sini ist\u0259yirsinizs\u0259 ehtimallar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn o zaman nec\u0259 t\u0259sir ed\u0259 bildiyinizi g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ksiniz<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r bir \u00e7ox insandan e\u015fitmi\u015f\u0259m ki, dost eybi \u00fcz\u0259 dey\u0259r. Amma f\u0259rqli bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 y\u00f6n\u00fcnd\u0259n baxma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131m v\u0259<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":403,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","pgc_sgb_lightbox_settings":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4,6,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-401","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-hekaylr-stories","category-nicat-tagizad","category-oz-fikirlrim"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/401","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=401"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/401\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/403"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=401"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=401"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nicattagizade.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=401"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}